Sunday, October 14, 2012

the Truth About My Crush


Sooo.... i think i mentioned to you guys that i was crushing on somebody.... Well, Sometimes the truth about a person can leave you feeling Jaded. i know no one is perfect, but sometimes when reality shines it's light on the situation, all you can do is take a step back and re-evaluate the situation.

In actuality, she is Beautiful, Feisty, Petit, has a nice Physique and pursuing a College Education... so on paper she ticks a lot of my boxes. She knows how to take a little teasing without getting offended  and she also knows how to give a good teasing. We text often back and forth, and she is an open book. She has a full time job in the city and she is a full time student in school, that is something that is very admirable (i prefer girls who have a good job ethic and are responsible enough to earn money to pay for whatever they need or want). Her last relationship was about 3 years ago, she has dated a little bit here and there but she doesn't want anything serious to interfere with her school or the time she has with her family. She is old enough to buy alcohol for herself, so that means she is above 21 (i cant date a girl isnt older than 21, i just cant, girls younger than 21, i just dont know how to relate with them on a mental level)

She has a lot of things going for her, and on paper, this would be sooo freaking perfect..... but, the only Roadblock is that she isn't the Sharpest tool in the shed. im not calling myself Einstein nor do i need a girl who has an IQ of 250 or whatever, but i really do think she might be a bit slow. its not totally a bad thing, but its not a good thing either.

the only reason why i have come to the conclusion that she isn't to sharp is because we take a class together, a finance class... we are class partners and our prof usually gives us in class work to do. In class she often seems to need help, and she keeps talking about how smart i seem when i finish the problems and how we need to study together. I chalked it up to her playing the damsel in distress card so maybe we could know each other better outside class, but i had a study group with her, and Damn.... i almost dont really have any nice words, but it was a struggle for her to keep up with me trying to explain things to her. I assumed if it was a damsel in distress act, that she would wizen up during the Study group, but i really think its not an act anymore. its basically a tragedy... we got to talking and she was telling me about how she has only gotten an A in her Transcript and it was for Phys Ed.... i kindly told her not to repeat that anymore in front of me or in front of people.

this Revelation has surely taken a little bit of shine of my Crush, i mean, she is still good looking in my eyes, but just a little less soo. im a Sucker for Smart Girls and girls i can have interesting debates with about theology, life and philosphy.... maybe i have been spoilt by all my Exs for them being smarty pants, but if my crush is ever gonna progress to anything more than just Eye Candy, then im going to need to Overlock something that i have come to expect from the opposite sex.

She is attractive enough that she doesnt need to be smart in this male dominated world, but it really would have been the cherry on the cake if she was Beautiful and Mentally Sharp. I really want to overlook this little fault, but then something tells me i wouldnt be able to let it go. Anyways, look at me projecting to the future... after all, this is still a Crush and we are yet to even go out on an Official date.


p.s.  She told me that she was kinda Dating some guy, But she also did tell me that it wasnt serious.....

8 comments:

  1. sigh
    i appreciate the fact that you see it as an issue now rather than later so you can make sane decisions about proceeding with any future step.

    If she is working a full time job and going to school, how unsharp can she really be, she might just not be good in finance, everyone cant be amazing at everything, at least she understands that she has a problem with it and asked you for after school help.
    Thats the most important thing there.

    Being book smart is not even as important as being street smart and life smart, seems like shes got the others down to a T, realizes the importance of an education and is hardworking.

    forget how she does in school
    Can she hold an intellectual conversation on other topics?
    does she bore you?
    those are the things that are important
    If you werent taking a class together you'll never know how bad she was at finance, take this out of school and evaluate her smartness in the real world :)
    hope it works out
    Thanks for stopping at my blog

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    1. yeah you are right.... i figured i might as well give it another shot... anyways, i feel like i was searching for something negative to help me buffer a possible rejection that i might face from her. sometimes im self defeatist.

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  2. This seems like a "crush of proximity" more than anything else. I'm sure in college we all had that lab partner or study partner that we thought was cute and that proximity can cause "feelings", however, its a proximity thing. You have to learn to separate stuff like that from reality.

    If I were you, I would enjoy the time together for now and leave things at mild flirtation at best. Not every crush has to pursued to "conclusion". If the intelligence thing bothers you then you can see the merits of my plan.

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    1. well i know the crush of proximity too well, but i think this is something much more than that Ego Du jour, she is the kind of girl that if i saw on the road, i would have to do a double or triple take to have a good look at her.
      im usually not one to leave things at mild flirtation, it just builds a lot of frustration and whatever friendship i form on mild flirtation and suppression of feelings, i would deeply regret, sooo im going to be going all or nothing on her ass soon.

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  3. Yea, i think BBB covered all the basics. I'm not a fan of numbers either although i can work my way around if i absolutely have to. So if you hang around her a while more and you can't deal, then i guess you can leave it as a crush :)

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    1. yeah i def agree.... she did cover alot. but im going to be taking her advice and yours.

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    1. yupp.... she did, thanks Dayor for browsing through my Blog. most appreciated.

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