Would you Rather: Part Trois

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Soooo, this is a series in which i give two options, there is really no right or wrong answer, its all subjective according to the kind of person you are, all you have to do is just leave a comment on what option you would prefer to be in. 
one of my favorite books of all times "Venus in Furs" has a line in it that struck a chord with me... and it goes..... "in love, there is no equality, it is either rule or be ruled" sooo im going to extrapolate on this point. 
sooo here goes


A) would you rather be in a Relationship that your spouse is head over heels in love with you and every single thing that you do but the problem is that you don't have the same intensity of feelings for your spouse.... you might love them, but its an unequal distribution of love, its more like you on the love sharing scale == 
YOU => 30% love,      SPOUSE => 70% love.
 i hope you get my gist?




OR




B) would you rather be in a Relationship with your spouse where you are completely head over heels, your spouse tells you to jump and you ask how high, there is absolutely nothing your spouse can do wrong, you can not imagine living life without him/her.... but the problem is your spouse doesnt share the same intensity of love with you. on the love sharing scale it is more like
YOU => 70% love,     SPOUSE => 30% love.


im certain one way or another, we have found ourselves in a position similar to one or the other, or we may have experienced both, sooo if you were to make a decision, what would you rather be in???
you thoughts and comments are appreciated. Thanks Ciao. 


As always, i would updated it with my own personal preference much later. 

Its All a Learning ProCEss

Its all a learning process....
Yesterday was such a Beautiful day in NYC.... and during the spring and Fall NY has such Beautiful Sunsets and sunrises, i guess the temperature of the air is less hazy and it allows the rays to shine through much better... i dunno. Anyways, i figured it would be a learning experience for me to head out to go Snap FOTO.... sooo i carried my Big head and i went to go Snap Foto....


its all a learning process because trying to get the right composition, the right camera settings and the visions i had in mind were quite challenging, it just humbles me when i look at wonderful pictures and i think that maybe one day, i would become as good as that.... So out of the 30 or so pictures i took, this one was the one that made the most sense to me. 


i met fellow photographers and they gave me tips too, the two silhouettes you see in the image are the people i met, they were nice enough to let me take pictures of them sha... anyways, im still undecided on whether to open a separate blog for pictures or i should just create a different page on this blog for my Picshuressss.... lol. 


sooo this is my Amateur pic, i hope you guys like it. Enjoy.


though i always have to keep reminding myself, life and everything in it, is all a learning process. 

UPDATED::: Would you Rather: Part Duex

Sooo this is my new series, where i ask give you two options and you have to chose only one option. No answer is the wrong or right answer, its all about personal preference and what you would do. my last weeks chioce was THIS , just incase you missed it. 


Anyways, this week the options are
Would you Rather


a) be extremely wealthy but know that you would leave a short life.... by short life i mean, you probably would die by 45 or 50ish, and by wealthy i mean, you are wealthy enough to buy islands and pay the debt of a few third world countries. 


Or


b) live an Extremely Long life but Hover around the Poverty Line. When i say extremely long life, probably as long and fulfilling as being about 110 years or even old, and hover around the povery line in the sense that, going to the movies once a month would seem like a Luxury, being barely able to make your Rent payments, living off Food Stamps, but still being able to Survive


Remember, there is no right or wrong Answer to this Question. 


UPDATED:
i personally would like chose option A.... to me, i dont need to live a long life if i have the means to live a fulfilling life. i would explore the world, donate to charity, donate to science, setup trust funds for my Children (i have a phobia of bringing kids into the world while im broke), make sure my future generations never see poverty, and obviously, i would party like a rockstar because i would be dead in a few years. 


Being broke is not fun, or even living on the poverty line, most societies dont have an upward mobility regarding finances, Yes you hear of people like Oprah and Co... but these are the exception, even America isnt that upwardly mobile, most kids that are born into poverty usually stay there. i want my kids to experience more than i ever did. 

Me and My New Expensive Hobby

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Sooo, i guess i told you guys how giddy i was about getting my First ever DSLR and how i was going to start taking up a hobby on Photogs.... Sooo, i was so excited before i got the Camera, and now that i got it, im realizing how much of a learning Curve im going to have to overcome to actualize the vision i have with my Artistic Crush on Photography. Not to mention that DSLR and their Equipments are sooo Darn Expensive. :( .  i was shopping on Amazon trying to get myself more Lenses and all the Freaking Lenses i found cost upwards of 300bucks and up, Wow.... thats like 2 regular Cameras for a lens.... Whoo told me to carry my big head to learn Foto?

i got myself an Entry Level Nikon, Because truthfully, Ni**as are broke (pointing to myself) i got a Nikon D3100 and i had to get 2 lenses..... and it set me back a pretty penny. In the Past i got myself a Holga Point and Shoot because i saw the capabilities of its pictures, but then i never used it once.... But im definitely hoping that doesnt happen with this DSLR, because errrr, i just cant afford to have a Camera that cost soo much sitting on a Dresser anymore. Sooo, i have delved deep into tutorials, Videos and beginner tips from Youtube, Websites, Blogs and all sorts of sources....

im slowing pacing myself, and i realize that i would not be an Amazing Photographer overnight but atleast it would keep me busy enough to keep my out of trouble... especially from the Women of the World (God knows i need a break from thinking about Women, and im certain the Women of the World definitely need a break from My Ass).

Abeg see me see trouble.

Anyways, i have learnt a few basic things, like Bokeh, Field of Focus and all other things sha.... here are some pictures where i play with depth of field and focus.

this pic has the flower in focus and everything else blurry. then

this is the same pic, but the field of focus changes... its a simple concept, but it took me a while to learn it.... abeg oh. lol.

then i took this one just to get a different perspective of things

i know i got a long way to go... but im just glad i have something too keep me occupied for now... i have plans of going all around the city and taking pictures sha, NYC is usually very pretty in the spring and summer.... i have the fear that im going to be one of those annoying people who cant go anyway without a camera in my hand, though every Artistic Photog keeps emphasizing on taking pictures, taking pictures and taking more pictures... i hear its the only way anyone can get better.

Here is a bonus picture of a portrait of a friend

So leave a comment if you have any ideas you would want me to explore.... Im probably going to have to Make another Blog Website for my Photography and stuff, soo it doesnt Interfere with the Main Theme of the Blogsite.

When Falling in Love Really isnt An Option!!!!!

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Sooo, Everyone raves about falling in love, and how good that shit is supposed to be, but Frankly, i think i have put myself in some situations that i need to try and stay away from love and all its crazy bullshit. im in 3 darning scenarios that might and would complicate the possibility of falling in love and basically my love life. im going to make this post short because its 3Am in the fucking morning and every normal person is sleeping at this time and i should be doing that too. Soo this is going to be a summary jist.


scenario 1
i have known this girl for a relatively medium amount of time, she is basically one of the prettiest people i know and have laid Eyes on (no offense to all the other pretty people that are reading this statement). Well, truthfully, she is one of those pretty people who dont know exactly how pretty they are, probably because in High School she was a whole lot Chubby and she has always been a Dork. But 2 semesters before graduating college and she lost a ton of weight and kept a whole bunch of womanly Curves on her frame. She is smart and driven (nothing more sexy than a girl who can put sentences together).
She has alot of things going for her, but there are just a whole lot of things that arent going for US...
basically, she is a whole different culture from i am, she grew up in a very Religious Muslim Family, and in her Culture, her parents basically Have Arranged Marriages for the females (#wheretheydothat@?).... yeah,  all that shit got me puzzled like WTF....
we did sneak out for a few dates and we tried to make plans for future dates, but the last time we went out, we had to tell ourselves the truth, we both are attracted to eachother, but the truth is, if her Father Ever found out about me and about the Fact that i was Black, as nigerians usually say "it would be No Joking Matter".... sooo i decided to stop while i was ahead


Scenario 2
im have known this woman for less than a year, we met during the fall.... she basically sits with me in class and the professeur in my class always has to give me the Evil Eye because shit is always funny when im with this woman. i didnt know too much about her, except for the fact that she looks way younger than the age i think she is, and her accent is heavy doused with foreignness. She is cute, short and petit, My nickname for her is Fun Size, but apart from nicknames and school stuff ,we never ever really hung out.... well until this semester, when she suggested hanging out during the little freetime we always have before classes begin. it did start out innocently, or atleast i thought it was innocent, until we started having grown up talks (if you know what i mean *wink wink*)... well, she let it slip that she cant put a finger on what it is that she finds attractive about me... and i did relay that i thought it was cute of her and i thought she was cute too.... but here is the problem... i also found out that she was Married, has two kids which are 4 and 5 years old. this is basically her second degree, she got her first one from NYU. and she did tell me that even though she was married, she felt it was one of her biggest mistakes she made as a life choice.... (yeah i know what you guys are thinking, you guys are like, this Nigga is always involved with someone else's Woman, well you probably might be wrong in this situation)
i just found out she was married because she has never worn her wedding ring to class or anywhere that i have seen her. sooo that marriage issue is a big problem for me, sha.


Scenario 3:
hmmmm, i have known this girl for a good while, i dont speak to her as often as i should, but whenever we talk, it could go on for days if someone's phone battery doesnt die out. we are very much alike, maybe because we are born under the same Zodiac sign, maybe we just click just because, maybe if i whole heartedly believed in soulmates she would be the closest thing to mine. Around her, im fully myself, i am comfortable but yet, she also challenges me to be better than the present me that i am. We have a good amount of history together, no matter who i have been talking to, she has always been in the foreground. if i were to make a short list of people i would want to be stuck on an island with, she would be on all my short list. i believe we are still very much attracted to each other, and we can build a relationship together if we ever decided too.
but the problem is........
we are hella busy, she stays about 20 mins away from me, but we probably see eachother probably once in a month if anything, We usually have to plan like 3 weeks in advance to make sure our schedules coincide for us to be able to meet. she has a whole lot of stuff going on, and im proud that she is about her business. she is applied for her PhD and she got into 4 different schools of her choosing, though her school of choice is 5 hours away by airplane, and 14hrs by Car.... we have both agreed that we cant really handle long distance relationships, because i just dont think those things work. Plus im the kind of BF that likes to see his GF atleast 2 to 3 times a fucking Week, call me needy, call me possessive, call me Psycho, but thats just usually how i am. Soo this wouldnt really work. 


Sooo, as you see, these are Just Scenarios that Falling in love is really not an Option.

Would you Rather: Part Uno

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Sooo, Quick updates.... life is still busy. im neglecting to reply my Comments (i have long drawn out replies that im keep procrastinating to reply about).... im Glad some of you like the last Poetry, i did put alot of thought and heart into all my poetry, especially my last one. 
i always wanted to get myself a DSLR, and i finally got one.... Yay me. sooo im stuck figuring out whether i should open a Tumbler for Photos or i should just add a Page to this Blog for my Photos.... im still learning proper composition and im not too certain if im going to be taking street photography or anything, but all i know is that my DSLR is gonna make me hella occupied. 


now, im gonna start like a weekly quickie post, and it would be a "Would you Rather?" series, i give two options and i give you guys the option of choosing only one of the options you would rather choose and you could leave a detailed reason as to why you choose what you chose. by the end of the week, i would re edit the post with my own personal Answer to the Question i asked. 


sooo, the first Question is


WOULD YOU RATHER?


be with a spouse/husband//boyfriend/girlfriend/significant other who


a) had a Beautiful Face but an out of shape/super undesirable body. a Beautiful face enough to make to want to stare at there facebook Page for hours at a time, but the body was bad enough that you winced anytime you caught a glimpse of their full body, even if there were fully clothed. if there was a rating scale the Face would be a 9 or a 10.... but the body would be about a 3 or a 4. 


OR 
b) a Incredibly Sexy Body but a Butter Face. When i say incredibly sexy body, i mean the whole world seems like a better place when the person is Prefereably half naked/Fully naked. No matter whatever the person put  on, the clothes just seemed like they were made for him/her. the person's Physique is the kind of Physique Greek Gods and Goddesses were modeled after.
though the person's Face was something else entirely different. You couldnt look at the person's face without wondering how a body like his/hers got stuck with a horrible Face like that. Basically on a rating Scale, the Body would be a 9 or a 10..... but the Face would be a 3 or 4. 




Sooo... these are the options, there is a catch though. the person with the beautiful face and ugly body cant have plastic surgery, the person cant fix their body, sooo you are essentially stuck with the Pretty/handsome face but ugly body.... and for the Greek God/Goddess Body and ugly Face, no amount of makeup or plastic surgery can fix their ugly too. sooo those are the options and those are the restrictions. i would like to see what your feedbacks would be. 
Leave your Comments below. 




UPDATE:


i personally, i would prefer a less than mediocre face and a 10/10 body.... Why? well thats because being cute alone isnt enough to turn me on, and in situations where i have had to choose the face or the body, i have chosen the body. Most Guys are probably like me and they would choose the Body too. Clearly, What is the point of being with somebody and they dont have the ability to turn you on? well thats just how i look at it. 

WHY Men and Women can Never be FRiends: MALE PERSPECtive

Soooo, i guess its better to clarify this post, this is from a males perspective... but as they say, you need 2 people to be in a relationship, sooo if one person is in a relationship and the other person is not in a relationship, then it isnt considered a relationship. 


im posting this later than i woulda liked.... but you know the same ol excuse im about to give, "i was Busy"... lol. Sooo happy New Month i guess. I dunno February just seemed extra long (duhhhh leap year), i guess it gave us one more extra day of black history. 
My last post was intentionally intended to be a short post, but for some reason, my fingers wouldnt let me stop typing. maybe that was just an early april fools for all my readers.... sooo April Fools then. what can i say, i guess im just that revolutionary and rebellious, April fools in February, Genius idea. i should patent that idea. "Thats Hot" #paris.hilton.voice.


now i swear this post is actually short, no tricks up my sleeve. #evilgrin